Have you joined rides/events because others convinced you to do so, or simply because you thought you should?
I certainly have… but it wasn’t always clear to me that the ride/event wasn’t enjoyable simply because it was not aligned with what I truly enjoy doing on the bike. Many times I thought it was because I wasn’t good enough, experienced enough, or strong enough. Well, sometimes it was because of that
Then there is social media: Instagram, Strava, Facebook, etc. If you are like me, cycling feeds take most of my feeds on these sites. I see all the traveling people do to participate in cycling events/camps, scenic and awesome routes, nice weather, races that look badass, countless hours on weekends, big groups of friends, the list goes on. Wow, riders everywhere sure are having all sorts of fun!! Oh and what about this one: someone posts a comment on your Zwift ride on Strava asking why you did not go outside to ride, because the weather was so “nice” and it’s finally “warm” - and little do they know you have so many personal commitments you can’t afford to go for that nice 3h ride outside? I catch myself in a “funk” sometimes thinking how I could be doing this and that, and instead I can’t because of… well, life.
All of these things can often times clutter our minds and detract from who we are and what we like, and most importantly, how we feel abut ourselves, our cycling, and our personal accomplishments.
So I thought I’d share how I plan to handle this:
- I’m going to be true to myself and stick with what I like, regardless of whether everyone else seems to be doing something, and/or something is a “tradition” in cycling.
- I am going to keep things in perspective. Many of the riders in my area and in local clubs are much younger/older than me, and do not have the same commitments that I do. Sometimes I think it’s a small miracle that I am able to fit it as much as I do in light of the hectic life that I have right now. So I am going to celebrate that. Celebrate each ride, each workout, each event. I did it!!!
- There are many events and trips I’d love to do, but can’t at this point in my life. So I am going to stop beating myself up for not being able to do it, and will find events that bring me joy, fulfilment and that I can realistically commit to. Zwift events count here also, and I won’t worry about what the outdoor purists think
I hope this post is helpful to those who also feel some peer pressure or FOMO!!